Is boys and men’s violent behaviour taught to them by their mothers?
In broad terms I would say an emotionally abusive mother is a mother who uses her son or daughter in an attempt to fill her own unmet emotional needs. This is similar to defining sexual abuse as someone who uses another person in order to fill their own sexual needs
The fundamental failure of the so called Child Protection system is that is doesn’t protect children. Perhaps ‘Childabuser Protection’ would be more apt.
Almost without exception the organisations fraudulently claiming to fulfil this role at taxpayers expense such Children Services, CAFCASS and the Police fall into the trap of linking the vulnerable child to the mother, whereas in fact the mother is very likely to be the abuser. The blind spot which is designed into the system helps to perpetuate the Children Industry and helps further the aims of the UN by destroying families.
If the mother did not feel adequately loved, safe, secure, protected, appreciated, valued, accepted and respected before giving birth, she will, in all likelihood, attempt to use the child (and later the teen) to fill these needs. If she did not feel adequately in control of her own life as a child and teen, she can be expected to try to control her son or daughter as compensation. This is the recipe for emotional abuse.
Sadly the Useful Idiots who have been on the Common Purpose training programmes feel they are acting in the Best Interests of the Children, whereas they are in fact acting in the best interests of the collectivists and globalists intent on destroying families and children so soften them up for the future dictatorship being rolled in under the radar, except it’s being picked up at long last, hence Brexit, Trump and Rome Referendum.
General Characteristics of Emotionally Abusive MothersMaking the child/teen feel responsible for the mother’s feelings.
Threatening them in general.
Threatening them specifically with rejection or abandonment.
Threatening them with vague, unstated consequences.
Using force upon them.
Invalidating their feelings.
Laying undeserved guilt on them.
Placing undeserved blame on them.
Dominating the conversations.
Refusing to apologize.
Always needing to have the last word.
Judging or rejecting their friends.
Sending them to their rooms for crying.
Locking them out of the house.
Using punishments and rewards to manipulate and control them.
Invading their privacy.
Failing to show trust in them.
Giving them the silent treatment.
Failing to give them real explanations.
Giving non-explanations such as “because it is wrong” or “because it is inappropriate” or “because it is a sin”
Ref: www.eqi.org S. Hein