Basic rights in relationships:

  •  The right to emotional support, encouragement, and good will from the other.
  • The right to be heard by the other and to be responded to with courtesy and respect.
  • The right to have your own view even if the other has a different view.
  • The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real.
  • The right to a life free from excessive accusations, blame, criticism, and judgments.
  • The right to live free from emotional and physical abuse.

Guidelines for Setting Limits (Patricia Evans 1996)


It is often said that prevention is better than cure. There are plenty of guys who have discovered just what a wonderful thing hindsight is and probably wish they could time travel so they could have read this page before committing to an abuser. If a relationship is too good to be true, then it probably is.

Sadly because we men are good at committing to long term relationships, the majority of divorces are instigated by the woman, this can work against us should we find ourselves in a bad relationship.

“Every now and again we tell ourselves lies in order to delay making difficult changes that we know are ultimately in our best interests. “, read this excellent article from Shrink 4 Men on the lies we tell ourselves to stay in a bad relationship.

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